i recently saw a movie where a wife told her husband "why dont you say anything nice to me?" so he made it a point to tell his wife two nice things a day. i thought that was the sweetest thing ever until i looked back on my life and my relationship. as good as that sounds, MY husband does that. on his own! without me having to ask him! and its the greatest feeling in the world!
everyone has a tendency to compare others relationships to their own...especially fake/tv relationships! you have to make sure to take the time to realize that most of the time, the relationship you envy is either fake or fixed up to look really good in picture. (we have a tendency to envy instagram relationships). thats the problem though. we need to appreciate what we have in life instead of thinking you want something different or new that you never even "knew" you wanted. you wouldnt have expectations if you didnt see them somewhere else.
once i realized how fabricated those things were, i started REALLY loving my relationship. yes, i already loved it. but when you take away the "expectations" of something glamorous, you start living in your life and loving it more. i say this because ever since i was removed from my life back home, it was just me and matthew. obviously, we had our ups and downs. but it wasnt until i realized that it was just me and him, no one else, did i started figuring life out. as stupid/corny/cheesy as this may sound, i fall in love with matthew ALL THE TIME. not just once in a while, but truly (just about) every day. yes, we still have our bad days and i have my bad moods that make me mad at him for a day. but seriously, there are so many times i wish that cameras were on us so that you could see the emoji heart eyes that filled MY eyes. i would just watch him some days and my heart would explode.
my husband is so amazing. and so loving. and i cant get enough. he surprises me all the time and im so thankful for that. one morning we were getting ready and he turns to me, hugs me tightly, and says "thank you for having my baby". *heart melts* like, of course! i'm your wife! but he was just so in love with me, and my bump, and our life. that was his way of expressing himself. but it was so sweet and kind.
there have been a few cases during my pregnancy where im so full of love and happiness that i have laughed until i cried. and when i say cry, i mean balled. (my neck is my tickle spot. come near it and i die.) matthew obviously knows that and uses it against me. well, he came at me (twice) and started tickling me so bad i was almost screaming. we had our great giggle (oh, always find time to giggle with your significant other) and as i was laughing uncontrollably, i started crying. that cry led to a ball. matthew was so confused because we were JUST laughing so bad. he asked what was wrong and all i could do was cover my eyes and say "i just love you so much!!" and then id cry some more because that is truly the greatest feeling in the whole world. to be so in love that you just cant control yourself.
dont forget to have fun and laugh with your husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife. i dont know if its the pregnancy or what, but my humor level has bumped up 1000%. everything that id think was a little funny is now alot funny. but regardless, i find my husband hilarious. we laugh together daily, and constantly. the other day we were in the kitchen and died laughing at one thing that lead to another thing that lead to another. matthew said "i wish we could have recorded that so we could watch it back and laugh again!" but baby, its locked in my head for life.
all i can say is--appreciate what you do have and concentrate less on what you dont. dont fall into the jealousy whole that instagram makes. social media is just a way to make your life seem more glamorous than it is. ladies--continue to date your men. find the good in them instead of looking for bad. and most importantly--continue to fall in love with them over and over and you will find the happiness in life that you may have been missing.
love you and appreciate you babe.
mk